Category Archives: Life changes

Shift, Part 2

I’ve been living with an income decrease for almost 6 months now. I prepared for the “eventful” decrease with the help of one of my sons who has some financial savvy. I’m on a scary end of this financial learning … Continue reading

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somewhere to go

So. I moved to this desert to make a life with someone who is now long and willingly gone. I am the sole owner of a property that we once picked out together. When the modified grant deed was put … Continue reading

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not really a soccer mom

We’ve hit the turning of the year here at Rainshadow Farm. The days are shorter and the shadows are longer. It’s a melancholy time, laced with such sweetness. That’s what autumn always has been for me, no matter where I’ve … Continue reading

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on the bad days…

I was thinking of my life 10 years ago. Just 10 years ago. Another lifetime. I was just past 50 years old. Felt very young. Felt like I was on my way. Life was full. Lots going on. My kids … Continue reading

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emotional violence

Apparently we women aren’t talking about the devastation of being played as much as we could. We would do well to share this kind of pain more, lest we think we’re alone when we are not. To this day, I … Continue reading

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small losses

So I mourned the loss of my marriage. And maybe even more, I mourned the loss of my hopes for the marriage. On and off, over the last couple of years I’ve thought about how much loss there has been … Continue reading

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running its course

I see that walking away from my marriage, although I didn’t want to do it initially, is completely in my best interest. Really, it was my ex who walked away.  He wanted a new life, in a new place, with … Continue reading

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