Category Archives: family

saga of the water leak, part 1

We’ve got a drought-time water leak saga happening here at Rainshadow Farm. Life was going on as usual around here a week ago, with a lot of my own angsting about whether or not to sell RSF and when and … Continue reading

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Shift, Part 2

I’ve been living with an income decrease for almost 6 months now. I prepared for the “eventful” decrease with the help of one of my sons who has some financial savvy. I’m on a scary end of this financial learning … Continue reading

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somewhere to go

So. I moved to this desert to make a life with someone who is now long and willingly gone. I am the sole owner of a property that we once picked out together. When the modified grant deed was put … Continue reading

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not really a soccer mom

We’ve hit the turning of the year here at Rainshadow Farm. The days are shorter and the shadows are longer. It’s a melancholy time, laced with such sweetness. That’s what autumn always has been for me, no matter where I’ve … Continue reading

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on the bad days…

I was thinking of my life 10 years ago. Just 10 years ago. Another lifetime. I was just past 50 years old. Felt very young. Felt like I was on my way. Life was full. Lots going on. My kids … Continue reading

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emotional violence

Apparently we women aren’t talking about the devastation of being played as much as we could. We would do well to share this kind of pain more, lest we think we’re alone when we are not. To this day, I … Continue reading

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my blood

My blood comes from the mountains of West Virginia. I came of age in the heart of a city in the Great Lakes Rust Belt. I grew up watching its traffic and its creeks and rivers, walking along the lakeshore. … Continue reading

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We’ve had thunderstorms two days in a row here.  Thunderclap and lightning strike together and the power went out at home for a few hours on Thursday. Southern California is dry country. Even the hills running down to the beach … Continue reading

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shift

This is a time in life when many of my women friends are considering what we want to do “next.” Some of us are single. Some of us have means; some not so much. Most of us who are single … Continue reading

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a couple of thoughts for valentine’s day

I’ll start at the beginning. I don’t date. Not really. Or at least I haven’t for a long, long time. Never, in my wildest dreams, would I have thought I’d be single since 2011 and divorced since near Halloween 2012 … Continue reading

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